A Sexuality Question.

[beautifulmask]

Hello all,

I found this place after browsing through Google in hopes to find some sort of answer to a question I have been asking myself for the past 2 years. What is my sexuality?

I am a 22 year old female and a virgin. I've always labeled myself as 'straight' and that was that. In recent years, however I have found myself attracted to certain women in my life, but not sexually. In fact, the men that I've ever been attracted to have never really sparked a sexual interest with me in a sense.

I've been attracted to these men and women because I've liked them as far as how they act and how they treat me. Even when I was dating, I never really thought of him as someone I was sexually attracted to, in fact it never crossed my mind. I was attracted to how he was someone that I enjoyed being around and could touch and feel completely satisfied with on that level.

That relationship is over however and I believe that most of it is because I had no interest in having sex. Not just with him, but I have no real desire for sex in general as far as being with someone. I do masturbate when the mood will strike me, but it is only just recently (age 21) that I started for stress relief.

I do have moments of sexual desire, but never towards a person I am with.

Is there something wrong with me, or are there other's like me? I want to be in a relationship with someone, but I worry if that person won't understand that I really have no desire to have sex with another person, at least not at all frequently.

[finding my way]

Maybe you just are not ready for that right now. There is no crime in that. Sex can create more problems than it relieves if you are not up to dealing with it. How about your relationships? How are they going for you, and are you feeling OK about you? That's an accomplishment in itself.

[beautifulmask]

Maybe you just are not ready for that right now. There is no crime in that. Sex can create more problems than it relieves if you are not up to dealing with it. How about your relationships? How are they going for you, and are you feeling OK about you? That's an accomplishment in itself.

I personally feel fine with my friend relationships and business relationships and for the most part I feel fine about myself. I know how I react to things and what I like and don't like.

[finding my way]

Then don't worry about it, beautifulmask.

Just curious, what's behind the name you chose?:)

[beautifulmask]

This picture: http://i252.photobucket.com/albums/hh9/anna-nah-nah2/1179009312237.jpg

It's been a big inspiration to me.

[finding my way]

Cool artistry!!!

[mscat]

Well what I am thinking is that perhaps you may have not yet been sexually aroused by a man.... Those feeling build faster for a man then a woman , and, you are normal. Sometimes, it takes more then just kissing to be turnes on by a man to feel the sexual desire to continue physically. However, you do not need to feel pushed into sex .
Whenever the time is right, or when the right person you feel you want to have sex with then go for it.
There is no magical age or anything. Since you wrote that you materbate, do you know if you have made yourself orgasm?

[beautifulmask]

Well what I am thinking is that perhaps you may have not yet been sexually aroused by a man.... Those feeling build faster for a man then a woman , and, you are normal. Sometimes, it takes more then just kissing to be turnes on by a man to feel the sexual desire to continue physically. However, you do not need to feel pushed into sex .
Whenever the time is right, or when the right person you feel you want to have sex with then go for it.
There is no magical age or anything. Since you wrote that you materbate, do you know if you have made yourself orgasm?

Yes, I have reached orgasm through masturbation.

What I was trying to explain was that, yes I can be sexually aroused, but I have no real interest in engaging in sexual intercourse with anyone, male or female. I know I won't be pressured into having sex because I am very firm about it. I mean, if you don't feel it, it's not going to be enjoyable and I would rather not get into it and have feelings be that I don't love or care for the person. I just am not interested at all in sex.