Is this a disorder?

[BrainDrain43]

Hello,

I am the father of beautiful 8 year old twin daughters. My girls were delivered about 2 months prematurely. They weighed in at 4 lbs 13 oz. and 3 lbs 5 oz. The youngest, and lightest at birth, was in danger of not surviving twin to twin transfusion syndrome so they had to be delivered via c-section.

Both girls seem to have overcome all the physical difficulties associated with their traumatic entry into this world. However, the younger has somehow carried forward an intense conviction that she is always being short changed in favor of her sister. My wife and I strive to make sure that our dealings with them are as fair as possible. Still she does not seem to trust us at our word. And she becomes extremely emotional in this regard.

We love our girls very much. It hurts to see her in such pain. Please help!

Sincerely

[DaveInOz]

Hi BD,

Although I don't have any answers for you or even suggestions I just wanted to say hello and welcome you the community.

I'm sure there are other here that can point you in the right direction or at least offer you support.


Cheers

:)

Dave

[silentmist]

'ello :D

Theres and interesting perspective out there called 'love tanks' ... i think there are 10 of them. There is also a series of books about something called 'love languages' and how different people feel love in different ways, there are five of these, quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service and physical touch. Everyone needs all five but will have certain preferences that really push thier buttons and 'fill up' those love tanks when they feel them empty.

i find this perspective often helps me to articulate my intimacy needs and feelings.

Later :D

[BrainDrain43]

Thanks so much for your replies.

I will check into the love tanks concept. This sounds very interesting.

Regards