i need advice quick

[mishirm]

i met my boyfriend back in december of 07 he was the sweestest guy ever i was 6 months pregnant and he helped me out throught the rest of my term he seemed like the perfect guy. i went to nebraska for the summer and came back in august and he was a totally different person yeah he was nice at times but other than that he was abusive physically and mentally . when ever i would make a mistake he would say i was a horrible person and i was worthless. i would always have to watch my mouth and whatever i say around him because the littlest things would set him off on a rage.i have had plenty of bruises but the thing is i love him. and now i dont know what to do i have given up so much for him. i am only 19 i have thrown away family i moved out and in with him. my family wont take me back it was him or nobody. and i left nebraska when my family told me to stay because it was a new start for me to start college and so forth. i came back for this? wut do i do?

[malign]

Well, since you asked for it really fast:
1) Don't stick with a person who leaves bruises, whether physical or psychological. Even more if you have a toddler.
2) At least try again with your family, if they're your next best refuge. Things might have changed and people do forgive; you won't know unless you ask.

[silentmist]

Good one malign ... just what i was thinking.

If your partener is abusing you and making you tense and despressed your toddler will pick this up and it'll possibly affect your babies attachment to you and others. I'm a bit concerned about the "I have had plenty of bruises but ..." sentence. Enough!!!

You feel stuck between a rock and a hard place though, hmm. I think feeling safe takes priority over an education, i mean, whats quality of life if your being bruised regularly by someone who's supposed to be loving you.

Speaking as a man, it's easy to feel possesive over a woman without truely loving her and some woman can read this to mean that he loves her because he 'wants' her ... wanting is desire(which is about taking), love is about giving(selfless actions). you need love mishirm and your baby needs yours.

It's always so sad when a family has problems of this type. I feel for ya.