powi23
05-13-2008, 10:19 PM
Ok so here is the situation. It is a little long so bear with me.
Me and my girlfriend have been dating for 2 1/2 years. We met very young when she was 15 and i was 16. We couldn't be happier, and are getting along great, until recently. About 6 months into our relationship, she told me she liked to imagine what her life would be without me and with other guys, and often thought about other men sexually, etc. This upset me a little, but nothing major other then a day of feeling not too hot.
Now, last week, we discussed a whole bunch of deep-down things like, how she is attracted to some of my friends, and gets these "flashes" of words going through her mind sometimes, that she calims mean nothing, as "i love you but i want to **** (insert name)" She has also had gay dreams, dreams of cheating on me, and many many thoughts of this. We talked for a long time about this and i discussed that i guess its normal and it doesn't upset me. We ended this night with both confessing we have never felt so honest, close, and loving of one another. I let her know she does not need to feel guilty over these type of things and that she might jsut need that kind of mental wandering once in a while.
However, since this talk, she has CONSTANTLY been thinking terrible things about me, our relationship, and other people. For example, she says she cannot think of my name without having the word "i dont love him" flash through her head, and whenever she hears a name, it doesnt matter which, thigns like "jennifer is hot" or "ive had sex with jeremy"....she says that when she goes to stores, and is telling me about it things like "you f******* the store owners" flash throguh her head.
This is apparently driving her insane. she says she is scared of everything.
She also says none of it is true and that the thoughts do not voluntarily enter her head. She says she loves me more then anyone or anything, and i do believe her, but these "flashes" or "thoughts" or whatever you want to call them continue to pump out these completely out-of-character things and undermining. I continue to tell het hat its okay, its okay, im not bothered just calm down, and it helps, but this is all she can talk about every time i see her.
My girlfriend was a victim of sexual abuse as a very young girl, and i am beggining to think that these "thoughts" or "flashes" have a connection with this.
I am really worried for her, because i can visibly see how much it hurts her.
Not to sound self important, but i am the best thing that has happened to this girl. I saved her from gangs / drugs, an alcoholic father, parents that do not appreciate her, and a deep depression. She has also done wonders for me and helped me get my life into an amazing direction.
Is this possibly some kind of mental illness? Am i doing something wrong as a system of support?
I would love to ehar some kind of feedback. There is much more information but it would ber very lengthy to include everything.
Anyways thank you for any feedback.
Kind Regards
Me and my girlfriend have been dating for 2 1/2 years. We met very young when she was 15 and i was 16. We couldn't be happier, and are getting along great, until recently. About 6 months into our relationship, she told me she liked to imagine what her life would be without me and with other guys, and often thought about other men sexually, etc. This upset me a little, but nothing major other then a day of feeling not too hot.
Now, last week, we discussed a whole bunch of deep-down things like, how she is attracted to some of my friends, and gets these "flashes" of words going through her mind sometimes, that she calims mean nothing, as "i love you but i want to **** (insert name)" She has also had gay dreams, dreams of cheating on me, and many many thoughts of this. We talked for a long time about this and i discussed that i guess its normal and it doesn't upset me. We ended this night with both confessing we have never felt so honest, close, and loving of one another. I let her know she does not need to feel guilty over these type of things and that she might jsut need that kind of mental wandering once in a while.
However, since this talk, she has CONSTANTLY been thinking terrible things about me, our relationship, and other people. For example, she says she cannot think of my name without having the word "i dont love him" flash through her head, and whenever she hears a name, it doesnt matter which, thigns like "jennifer is hot" or "ive had sex with jeremy"....she says that when she goes to stores, and is telling me about it things like "you f******* the store owners" flash throguh her head.
This is apparently driving her insane. she says she is scared of everything.
She also says none of it is true and that the thoughts do not voluntarily enter her head. She says she loves me more then anyone or anything, and i do believe her, but these "flashes" or "thoughts" or whatever you want to call them continue to pump out these completely out-of-character things and undermining. I continue to tell het hat its okay, its okay, im not bothered just calm down, and it helps, but this is all she can talk about every time i see her.
My girlfriend was a victim of sexual abuse as a very young girl, and i am beggining to think that these "thoughts" or "flashes" have a connection with this.
I am really worried for her, because i can visibly see how much it hurts her.
Not to sound self important, but i am the best thing that has happened to this girl. I saved her from gangs / drugs, an alcoholic father, parents that do not appreciate her, and a deep depression. She has also done wonders for me and helped me get my life into an amazing direction.
Is this possibly some kind of mental illness? Am i doing something wrong as a system of support?
I would love to ehar some kind of feedback. There is much more information but it would ber very lengthy to include everything.
Anyways thank you for any feedback.
Kind Regards