unhappy newlywed
09-19-2008, 08:11 AM
I have only been married about five weeks. I have been out of a job for about eight weeks. I have been trying to find a job, my husband is being supportive but he is also getting tired of hearing me talk about the lack of jobs. He told me I need to help in my depression. He also said in an underlying message that he is tired of hearing abut me all the time.
Last evening he was watching college football, I am not a fan. We watch the Broncos together and have a great time. I started talking to him and he did not respond, so I said you didn't hear a word I said, and he did indeed hear me and repeated back what I had just said. The he told me he was watching this game and how would I like it if he talked when I was watching something. We watch football all the time together and talk and have fun. Then he said it isn't always about you. So, I stayed out of his space and the game went on and then into overtime. I went to him and said, I am tired and I was going to bed and gave him a small peck and went to bed. He can in after the game and rolled around and turned on the light. When I asked him if he needed something he said he needed a hug and a kiss. So I kissed him sweetly and said good night. He continued to shuffle around and then he left the room saying he could not fall asleep. This morning when he left for work he came in and kissed me briefly and patted my shoulder and said see ya later.( he usually jumps back in bed with me for a few minutes and snuggles and tells me to have a good day) not today. Then he took out the trash on his way out the door and threw a new trash bag on the floor. Not like him. SO I do believe his mad at me.
Therein lies me question, do I take on his anger and apologize to him. ( I don't feel I did anything wrong ) He gets this way if I am not loving enough to him, I know we will have a fight this evening and I really do not want to.
Any ideas? Thanks
Last evening he was watching college football, I am not a fan. We watch the Broncos together and have a great time. I started talking to him and he did not respond, so I said you didn't hear a word I said, and he did indeed hear me and repeated back what I had just said. The he told me he was watching this game and how would I like it if he talked when I was watching something. We watch football all the time together and talk and have fun. Then he said it isn't always about you. So, I stayed out of his space and the game went on and then into overtime. I went to him and said, I am tired and I was going to bed and gave him a small peck and went to bed. He can in after the game and rolled around and turned on the light. When I asked him if he needed something he said he needed a hug and a kiss. So I kissed him sweetly and said good night. He continued to shuffle around and then he left the room saying he could not fall asleep. This morning when he left for work he came in and kissed me briefly and patted my shoulder and said see ya later.( he usually jumps back in bed with me for a few minutes and snuggles and tells me to have a good day) not today. Then he took out the trash on his way out the door and threw a new trash bag on the floor. Not like him. SO I do believe his mad at me.
Therein lies me question, do I take on his anger and apologize to him. ( I don't feel I did anything wrong ) He gets this way if I am not loving enough to him, I know we will have a fight this evening and I really do not want to.
Any ideas? Thanks