New meds, can't stop eating! [Archive] - Mental Help Net Community

paula

09-24-2008, 02:30 PM

Can anyone advise me whether being put on new meds can make you binge eat?

After going right down in my moods, and feeling Suicidal, I decided to pay my G.P a visit. Because I was feeling really, really Depressed, and on various medication to help me deal with these issues, the truth was that I felt that they was doing me no good in the way that I was feeling? Mertazapine 45mg, Diazapam 10mg x4 times a day, Dicloflex 50mg x3 times a day.

My G.P explained to me that to find out if these meds was doing me any good or not, that I would have to reduce the dose, so I was able to be weaned of them.

We've been through this post before. To cut a long story short. I couldn't reduce the dose to enable me, to be weaned of them.

So my G.P put me on more medication. So now I'm on Mertazapine 45mg, Diazapam 10mg x4 times a day, Dicloflex 50mg x3 times a day and now, Dosulepin 150mg.

I have been taking these new meds along with my other meds, a little over a week now. I found that they have helped considerable. I am beginning to manage my mood swings again.

The problem is: I can't stop eating? I had already put on two stones in eighteen months with taking the Mertazapine. I have been attending Weight Management at my G.P's Surgery (Practice) and have been doing well. But I'm afraid that the weight that I've lost recently, will pile back on?

It's alright thinking NO! I'm not going to have anything to eat, but these hunger pangs, I can't fight! Because I suffer with Insomnia also, I am only having 3/4hrs sleep. So I don't go to bed till 4/5am and I'm up again at 8/8.30am. So I'm eating a lot more than if I was sleeping normally!

Could anyone advise me, whether it has anything to do with these new meds that I have been prescribed? And if so, what can be done about it?

ASchwartz

09-25-2008, 10:20 AM

Hi Paula,

I am not a medical doctor and cannot make any specific comments about medications because I am simply not qualified. However, in general, I know that a new medication can produce side effect like what you are describing. You really need to talk to your doctor as soon a possible. That is what I Always told my patients when the expressed any questions and or doubts about medicines and side effects. Talk to your doctor ASAP.

Allan

paula

09-25-2008, 11:56 AM

Cheers for that Allan, I'm due to go on Monday lunch anyway. Will mention then.

Will take me all weekend to pluck the courage up to see him anyway!

I hate these times when I've got to attend my Appointments! I'm always a wreck by the time I get there, and then I just fall to pieces! I always feel drained! As if it's really took it's toll on me? Probably has. It's a pity that they couldn't really dope me up so as not to get so Anxious and worked up!

I even take Two of my Diazapam 10mg, before I go and they don't do anything for me. They probably do, but I can't see it? Dread to think what I'd be like going drug free? Probably wouldn't be able to handle it. I'm having trouble now and I've not even got there yet!

Thanks anyhow!

WinterSky

09-25-2008, 09:54 PM

Mertazapine 45mg

Hi Paula, Mertazapine, also spelled Mirtazapine is the generic of Remeron. I have experience with Remeron. I could not stop eating! I gained lots of weight. So I got off of it and this side effect went away. I would make a phone call to your doctor immediately. It is a problem now for you I am sure. A psychiatrist is better at knowing these things than GP's I would think. Good luck to you.

paula

09-26-2008, 11:33 AM

Thanks for that Wintersky. I'm at my Docs on Monday anyhow, so I'll have a word!

Yeah! the amount that I'm eating is unbelievable? I've even bought all low calorie stuff, thinking that if I'm binge eating then at least it's not as bad as binge eating on full fat food is it! I might be eating twice as much but its all low calorie stuff!

I know that doesn't excuse the fact that I'm eating twice the amount, but what bother's me is:

1 - even though I've been on Mertazapine for 14 month's. My weight has plumeted by two stones in that 14 months.

2 - I have mentioned my concerns to my G.P previously, and he has told me that I shouldn't be listening to people on a forum site, and everybody is different? I've even copied my post of this site and took them in for him to see. But he's having none of it?

3 - I have explained to him that I can't see people on this site, giving me the wrong advice as they don't even know me, let alone what I look like?

4 - I'm only in my second week at trying another Anti-Depressant as well as the mertazapine 45mg, which is called Dosulepin 150mg. I have to take them both together, and it's since I've had to take that I've noticed that I can't stop eating! It was bad enough with only taking the Mertazapine, but now with taking the Dosulepin as well, I really don't know where I'm going to end up?

5 - What am I going to do if he say's it's all in my head?

Ant feedback would be much appreciated! Thank you. :eek:

WinterSky

09-26-2008, 01:46 PM

1 - even though I've been on Mertazapine for 14 month's. My weight has plumeted by two stones in that 14 months.

Do you mean plummeted or an actual increase in weight?

2 - I have mentioned my concerns to my G.P previously, and he has told me that I shouldn't be listening to people on a forum site, and everybody is different? I've even copied my post of this site and took them in for him to see. But he's having none of it?

Well he should know something about remeron in that it can cause folks to gain weight and increase their appetite. If he does not then I would get a second opinion. Also, are you paying for the weight management thing at your GP's office? If you are, I would for sure get a second opinion.

5 - What am I going to do if he say's it's all in my head?

Go to this site (http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/druginfo/medmaster/a697009.html) and show him the information you found on the internet. Also, talk to your pharmacist and obtain information from him/her. If he still does not listen to you, if it were me, I'd say take me off of the remeron! Here's the links you can read for yourself. He is right in that one should not depend on others in a forum for information. You must read this information for yourself and understand for yourself. The NIH is an American Government agency here in the US (I am not sure where you are) which stands for the National Institute for Health.

Other links to NIH:

Brand Names (http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/druginfo/medmaster/a697009.html#brand-names)

Search on Google for Mertazapine (http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&client=firefox-a&rls=org.mozilla%3Aen-US%3Aofficial&hs=RS0&q=mertazapine&btnG=Search) (notice it is Remeron?)

Side Effects (http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/druginfo/medmaster/a697009.html#side-effects) (notice increased weight and appetite?)

paula

09-27-2008, 07:34 AM

Thanks for that Wintersky, I looked up the info & it was brilliant! I've made a copy to take to my doc's on Monday. Would love to see the look on his face when I give it to him!

What I meant by plummeted is: Weight gain! I see where your coming from, regards the side affects!

Must admit though, something strange happened to me today.

I woke up at usual time, about 8ish. I suffer Insomnia. I got up, made a cup of drinking chocolate, I always have a drink of drinking chocolate in the mornings. It's the only hot drink I have in a day. Anyway, I had that, with a couple of cigarettes, and then I started to roll some cigarettes. Usually, after rolling my cigarettes, I start to get ready and start to clean the house.

When I stood up to start, a feeling came all over me. Like drained, very tired! At first I put it down to not having much sleep! Then, after about an hour, this feeling was still with me. I thought that maybe if I get up and move around, then I will start to feel a bit more lively? But no! I am still having trouble with this drained feeling! I don't know what it is?

I am wondering whether it has got anything to do with these new med's that I've been put on? I've been on these meds now, a little over a week. It's worrying me because today is Saturday, and the docs is closed till Monday. I don't want to phone the Docs up as they forward your call to the emergency centre, and I would not put this in the emergency line.

I might be alright tomorrow? What do you reckon I do if I'm not?

WinterSky

09-27-2008, 11:06 AM

Actually I have experience with diazepam. The brand name is Valium. You can find additional information here (http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/druginfo/medmaster/a682047.html) on NIH's site. It is a mild sedative in the class anti-anxiety (benzodiazepines) and ought to help you relax. It also helps with panic attacks which is why I use klonopin, another benzo.

I do not remember Valium, but I remember when I first started on Xanax (another benzo), my doctor recommended taking a half tablet for starters and that was plenty. After awhile they become ineffective and an increase would be in order.

WinterSky

09-27-2008, 04:32 PM

I've been thinking some more about your situation. I am not a professional. I am only someone who has been there. I attempted to help in a post that I think might possibly could have been interpreted as impolite and I want to apologize for that. I meant no offense. I deleted it. Before my psychiatrist would trust me with sleeping pills, he provided me with anti-anxiety medication.

I suggest if you have any other questions to call your pharmacist. But I do not think you need to worry. I searched for your other med and appears to be in the UK only. And I am not familiar with any good UK sites.

Good luck. :)

paula

09-28-2008, 04:45 AM

Hi Wintersky

Thanks for your reply's

This is proving to be a great concern for me. Yesterday, I could hardly keep my eyes open all day and night!

Today I got up and again, am experiencing difficulties in trying to stay awake! I just feel so drained and tired all the time! When I try to walk, my legs feel like jelly. I am not experiencing any light headidness or sickness feeling though. Yet!

I find that my mood is one of that I don't want to be bothered with anyone/anything. Just want to be left alone in peace.

I have decided to not take any more of the Dosulepin, and will tell my G.P on my visit to see him tomorrow. That's if I make it? The way that I'm feeling at the moment, I haven't even got the energy to get up, washed and ready. It doesn't help that I'm not even in the right frame of mind either!

Please excuse me if it is taking longer than usual to reply to your post!

Thanks again!

WinterSky

09-28-2008, 08:14 AM

Can you get someone to drive you to the GP? Have you tried speaking with your pharmacist about the Dosulepin? What do you know about it? I know that it feels like you have no doctor because yours is not responding to you. I recommend doing a little research on Dosulepin before making any hasty judgements on it.

For what it' worth, I started taking depakote a few weeks ago and also started taking klonopin 1mg three times a day. I was sleeping all the time. But it cured another problem I had. I immediately thought it was the depakote. I started to decrease the klonopin because of the sleeping all the time. Then this other problem I thought was cured came back. So I am taking more klonopin.

I do not recommend going against your doctor's advice unless he/she has given you the flexibility to do so, which my doctor has. Please keep in mind that anti-anxiety meds can be very addictive.

paula

09-29-2008, 04:52 AM

Hi Wintersky

I have just got in from a visit with my doctor.

After a stressfull morning, regarding my visit with my G.P, I finally got there to see him. I hate going to see him as I get all agitated and Anxious, then start paniking and forget what I've gone there in the first place for? All's that is on my mind is trying to get out of there and back home.

Anyway, I went in to see him and informed him of the way that I've been feeling of late by a letter, as I knew I wouldn't be able to talk to him with the state that I alway's get myself into?

In the letter, it also explained about the way that I've been eating of late. But because of all the panick and being frustrated, I forgot to take the information that I got printed out on Mertazapine. I couldn't mention anything because I didn't think till I came home.

He explained why I have been feeling the way that I have! You'll never guess what I've been doing like the idiot that I am! I've only been slowly overdosing myself on the medication! He said that I was to of weaned myself of the Mertazapine in the first week and only took 75mg of Dosulepin in the first week then cut out the Mertazapine completely in the second week and then start on the 150mg of Dosulepin. Well I've been taking Mertazapine 45mg & Dosulepin 150mg all at once on top of Vallium 10mg x4 daily and Dicloflex 50mg x3 daily. He said that he wasn't surprised that I couldn't keep my eyes open for more than half an hour at a time.He said that I'm lucky that I had an Appointment to see him when I did?

Now I've got to take half of the mertazapine tonight & tomorrow night with 75mg of Dosulepin tonight and tomorrow night. Then, I just take the Dosulepin 150mg Wednesday night and NO Mertazapine. He said that I should be alright taking my other meds along with them.

What an Idiot I've been! He should know better anyway. He know's I'm Dyslexic. Anyway just thought I'd let you know. & thanks for everything!

ASchwartz

09-29-2008, 05:37 AM

Hi Paula,

Well, don't beat up on your self. It is easy for the person who is the patient to get medications mixed up. I have done it myself. That is the reason it's best to check with the doctor whenever there are side effects.
Now you know what to do and should start feeling better. Good work.

Allan:)

paula

09-29-2008, 07:11 AM

Thanks Allan

Can't help feeling like an idiot though!

He wasn't impressed that I just stopped taking the Dosulepin. He reckon's that it could of put me in a Manic Depression mode. Feel like I'm not far from that now!

Ooooooooh Alan! I just feel such a fool! To think that I've been trying to slowly overdose myself? I mean, If I wanted to OD I would of done it proper! Ha! only kidding!

No seriously! He shouldn't of gone up the wall at me like he did? Fancy giving me instructions to take my own medication. That's like putting a chocolate fireguard in front of the fire! The Instructions should of been printed out and put on the tablets. Infact he should of only prescribed the adequate amount of tablets required shouldn't he. No wonder I'm a nervous wreck at going there. Now you can understand why?

Thanks anyway

Natalie

09-29-2008, 10:33 AM

Hi Paula-
I am sorry and worried to hear about your changes. However, you shouldn't just stop taking your medications on your own. Some need to be decreased over time because stopping all of the sudden can be harmful (or at least make you feel worse). Please call the doctor who prescribed the med and ask him her to help.

paula

09-29-2008, 03:08 PM

Awe thanks Nataliefor your concern! & Thanks to everyone who shown their concern. It really has been appreciated!

Natalie, I went to see my doctor today. Not because I wanted to, but because I had too! I really got worried there for a while! I don't know, I thought something seriously was wrong with me. Especially since I couldn't keep my eyes open ALL W/END. I'd gone from one extreme, having insomnia to the other, not being able to stay awake!

My Doctor wasn't very impressed with me! Because he head put me on new Anti-Depressants, he told me to wean myself of the Mertazapine over a weekly period with taking only 75mg of the Dosulepin, then take no more Mertazapine in the second week and go on 150mg of the Dosulepin. Well...... I couldn't remember what he said? So I had been taking my Mertazapine 45mg along with my Dosulepin 150mg & Diazapam 10mg x4 daily & Dicloflex 50mg x3 daily. He said he wasn't surprised that I couldn't keep my eyes open. He said that I had been slowly overdosing on all the meds that I'd been taking! I didn't do it on purpose! He should know better anyway. He knows I'm Dyslexic. Well that's my excuse! Honest Natalie, I couldn't remember what he said? Well I've paid for it all over the w/end haven't I?

He had a other doctor come in and give me the third degree, took my blood pressure, and I've got to go back on Thursday for some more blood test & to be checked out again. that's as well as going back nxt Monday to see how I'm doing?

I can well do without all these visits to the docs in the first place! they give me the creeps! I get myself that worked up and end up sweating bucket fulls and then start shaking. Natalie. How long will I have to keep going back to the docs for these checks! The thought just terrifies me! Honest!

Ronny

09-29-2008, 03:25 PM

Hmm. Although im sure medication and so on helps many, but some stuff u cant miracly fix by taking pills etc. In my opinion it can weaken people to much at times, making you hooked on fake blizz and so on. So when u dont get ur medication it just feel like falling down the stairs. At times people got to face the horrors. I feel with you paula ,but its just me who dont trust pills. You mention little sleep. Little sleep can also make you very very hungry. I have also had a lot of trouble sleeping for sevreal years(about 8years i ges). Few tip from me that seemed to help me sometimes.

1 doing complex mathematic in your brain. surly makes my brain tired after a while and it gets easyer sleeping.
2. Buy a fan, or something with a humming sound. I sleep much better with my fan on and cant understand what im supposed to do without it:).
3. Cold air makes me sleep better.
4. Watching tv while/before you sleep. Also helped me sometimes.

I ges my main reason i cant sleep is cause my brain dont wanna shut up:).
I admit i havent read evrything here, but do you have a simliar problem?.That you got trouble turning off the brain?.

Like many here ive been in the deepest dark with the depression. And to be honest i think i would be a complete mess if i started taking pills. Although insanly hard, but overtime i was forced to deal with my feelings and coop with the reality. Over the years i gained more and more controll over my body. (Dident have a option either). However i dont like where it has pushed me too. When you get abused psychological over long time your skin(soul if you like) gets colder, colder, harder, harder. Now for a strange sentence. I feel more and more like i feel nothing. Yet i cry and care. But it has made me a lot colder. In anycase, something thats very true.
The brain does what it need to do, to survive.

I know this is a lot of self talk, but its the best way for me to understand you. To relate with things in my life.

Good luck to you paula. Keep the spirit up:).

paula

09-30-2008, 05:02 AM

Hi Ronny, cheers for your reply!

Yeh! I have trouble sleeping? And yeh, my brain just won't switch off! My body's knackered but my brain is ticking all the time. Am I making sense? Do you understand where I'm coming from? I think you do?

Because I suffer from Manic Depression, and often get Suicidal thought's! I am on Anti-Depressants. I also suffer Anxiety, Insomnia, Panick Attack's and am Dyslexic. So...... you see This world isn't treating me fairly? But musn't grumble, there's a lot worst of than me! SHIT HAPPEN'S DOESN'T IT!

I'm not the kind of person to lie in bed watching T.V. I don't watch it through the day, so I'm not going to lie in bed watching it. Regards the mathematical situation. I am struggling with Numeracy to begin with! I attend a evening class every week to help me deal with this issue. I can see where your coming from though?

A fan? That's defonately out of the question! I'm one of these girls who check's if not once but a thousand times, making sure everything is turned off, of a night time? I'd be to worried incase it set on fire or something, through the night while I was sleeping/when I was sleeping? It would be just my luck that this would happen to? No! Can do without that adding to my worries, thank you very much! Nice thought though!

I can honestly say though, that without the pill's that I take, I'd don't think that I'd be here now? They help me considerably on dealing with my ailment's. I would dread to think what state I'd be in without them? :eek:

Ronny

09-30-2008, 05:46 AM

Im surpised. This is all weird in so many ways. Unlike others you seem to actualy spend to much time looking at urself, to put words on evrything you feel. Wich is not always a good thing, you get to caught up in words and ther meaning and how to define urself. You say you are suicidal yet u care about the little things, wich is odd too. Me personaly think you accepted evrything and quit fighting, of course u fight daily and struggle with things, but at the same time you given up. Let me give u and example.

I had asthma when i was younger but i never accepted it. I went to soccer games, running around crazy and playing soccer. Of course i had trouble breathing, but why i should i let a condition stop me from doing what i want. I was close to faint many times after intence running, but i stoped took a breath and started running again. I never accepted i had asthma and dident realise i had it after it was gone. Either i denied i had it, or never took the time to look on myself why it was this way, why do i problem breathing?. When i quit soccer when i was 13 i have never had any asthma related problems again.

So i think it would be actualy good for you to look more on tv. to get a little distance from urself. Cause people can drive themself insane :) i know it far to well.

paula

09-30-2008, 07:54 AM

Hi Ronny

Don't think that I'm being rude but, that you've written has gone right over my head :confused: Your not by any chance Psychic are you?

Correction, I said that I get Suicidal! At the moment I'm fine!

You say you are suicidal yet u care about the little things, wich is odd too. Me personaly think you accepted evrything and quit fighting, of course u fight daily and struggle with things, but at the same time you given up

There's no point in fighting! I'm not going to win! How can you win something over when you've been trying for years? Don't get me wrong, I was a fighter but found that I was getting nowhere? At the end of the day there's only one winner, and I'm afraid that's not me! Not in these curcumstances anyway!

I suppose in one way I am a fighter! Because I'm still here arn't I. :rolleyes:

So i think it would be actualy good for you to look more on tv. to get a little distance from urself. Cause people can drive themself insane i know it far to well.

I don't watch T.V because personally, it is all crap that's on it? I've got better thing's to do with my life like sending this post :D
Also, all you ever see on T.V is how someone has murdered someone and the Goverment this, and poverty all over the world? I've got enough problem's of my own without worrying about everybody else's!

Ronny

09-30-2008, 04:05 PM

Hi Ronny

Don't think that I'm being rude but, that you've written has gone right over my head :confused: Your not by any chance Psychic are you?

Not that i know off:). But i read people easly, however its a lot more diffycult over the web then in reality, so simple to lie on the net. In the reality a bit more diffycult. (however i belive you are honest with me, mostly at least).

Hi Ronny
There's no point in fighting! I'm not going to win! How can you win something over when you've been trying for years? Don't get me wrong, I was a fighter but found that I was getting nowhere? At the end of the day there's only one winner, and I'm afraid that's not me! Not in these curcumstances anyway!

I suppose in one way I am a fighter! Because I'm still here arn't I.

Depends how u look at things. In my opinion You are victories evry day you are able to stay alive. To endure whats going on in ur life and not end life by urself. Even how brutal and harsh things can look at times, people should try to enjoy life as much as they can in ther situastion.

Hi Ronny
[COLOR="Green"][SIZE="3"][FONT="Comic Sans MS"]I don't watch T.V because personally, it is all crap that's on it? I've got better thing's to do with my life like sending this post
Also, all you ever see on T.V is how someone has murdered someone and the Goverment this, and poverty all over the world? I've got enough problem's of my own without worrying about everybody else's!

I just thought it would be better hearing some other voices then the voices in ur head. Wich the tv f.e is a great tool to keep things a little more quiet up in the head :), no matter whats On the tv.

Yes im quite aware how confusing i can be at times. But people are confusing, most dont know why they think or act the way they do. Nor aware of it. However its not so confusing to me.

We carry scares from past to the future that we reapet both bad/good behavior even though we dont want too. We also forget to live in the now. past or future constantly trouble us. We all get born with a belive, dosent realy matter what kind. As long as we belive in something. Belive gives hope, since the human nature is quite destructive we need it badly. Sad thing is we even kill for it. We always like to think we know better then others, we often likes to point out errors in evryone els but to look on our self, most of us ignore it.

Hmm i think i must shut up, i could go on for days.(actualy deleted a lot of it. cause u cant describe evrybody with a few lines. Cause we humans can be quite complex).

In anycase i belive you are able to... well cure urself. Deffnetly a lot of it. Even though you dont belive it. (i have faith in you) :) . What you realy need is a diffrent perspective to look on things. Something thats quite hard doing by yourself though(unless u have an Epiphany). Cause your inside is in chaos.

Peace

Ronny.

paula

09-30-2008, 04:39 PM

Cynthia

09-30-2008, 05:10 PM

Remeron/Mirtazapine made me eat like crazy initially, but it oddly it levelled off once they increased my dosage to 60 MG a day.

paula

10-01-2008, 04:38 AM

Ronny

10-01-2008, 08:35 AM

Hi Ronny

Thanks for getting back to me.

I don't know, there's something about you that I like. Can't quite put my finger on it! But it will come to me? Probably because your so honest with me. Your so up front and that's what I like. I am getting what I see, and that's how it should be. You see, That's what I'm like. Very straight forward. but I tell you what I think! Not what I pretend to think?!

Well we seem to have something in commen then:), around my circut or what to call it im known for beeing brutaly honest yet supportive. Im also more honest then anyone i know.

Hi Ronny

Probably why a lot of people don't think much of me. But I don't care! At least I'm not calling you behind your back! If I've got something to say, then I say it. My problem is, saying it in the right nature.

I've only just grasps on that, of Mark. And he's right. I should learn how to say something in a nice and positive way instead of being so abrubt all the time and maybe then people will appreciate me for who I am and not what I am? Not that I am of some body anyway!

Yes this is quite a tricky thing. Cause at times you just have to be brutaly honest and at other times you have to be kindly honest. You have to look at the person you are talking too, And think. What can i do to help he/she the best way i can. If a person is quite aggresiv and mad he/she will not lissen to calm honesty, you actualy got to yell to them to get trough(in most cases. people are so diffrent so nothing goes for evryone). If the person is quite fragile and vulnerable you have to take it slow and easy. The very best thing is to be cunning actualy, to send a message to someone in a conversation without them even recognize it. So that they can figure it out themself and manage to help themself. In that way, they will get more confident, trust in themself and get a higher enlightenment. You got to move carefully in these kinds of things.

Kinda go more and more off topic, but oh well:)

paula

10-01-2008, 02:52 PM

Hi Ronny, Cheers for getting back so prompt!

Well we seem to have something in commen then, around my circut or what to call it im known for beeing brutaly honest yet supportive. Im also more honest then anyone i know.

[COLOR="Black"]I'm glad your open and honest!

Yes this is quite a tricky thing. Cause at times you just have to be brutaly honest and at other times you have to be kindly honest. You have to look at the person you are talking too, And think. What can i do to help he/she the best way i can. If a person is quite aggresiv and mad he/she will not lissen to calm honesty, you actualy got to yell to them to get trough(in most cases. people are so diffrent so nothing goes for evryone). If the person is quite fragile and vulnerable you have to take it slow and easy. The very best thing is to be cunning actualy, to send a message to someone in a conversation without them even recognize it. So that they can figure it out themself and manage to help themself. In that way, they will get more confident, trust in themself and get a higher enlightenment. You got to move carefully in these kinds of things.

Half of the time, you have to try and guess what a persons personallity is when you are replying to post on a forum site? What I tend to do is try and look for post already written by that person and try and figure what they are like by going of their written post?

I haven't & don't want to really deal with the public. They scare me to the brink of death! I think in reality, I've got to actually face them where here on the net, I'm only facing my computer screen. That's the way I like it.

I am soooooo quick tempered! I think because the way that I've been treated in the past, (I used to be so placid) I found that people used to walk all over me, So now, I tend to snap back before they have finished! I had to learn the hard way. I never had any big sisters to stick up for me? I've got two older brothers, but they are 10yrs older. To big of an age gap for them to stick up for me. My bark is worst than my bite!

Ronny

10-01-2008, 06:26 PM

Hi Ronny, Cheers for getting back so prompt!

Half of the time, you have to try and guess what a persons personallity is when you are replying to post on a forum site? What I tend to do is try and look for post already written by that person and try and figure what they are like by going of their written post?

I have actualy never told anyone this. But i can tell you how i do it.

In reality people behave diffrently to diffrent persons basicly cause of trust, issues, hostility or other stuff. So when i learn about the person i talk to online, i talk, ask, directly to the person. I dont try to figure them out trough diffrent posts messages etc. Cause In reality people behave diffrently to diffrent persons, so why should it be any diffrent in a forum f.e. I noticed this evrywhere. people tell me a lot they dont tell anyone els. Im not 100%sure why, but maybe cause im so open about stuff myself that people feel they can trust me.. I got no word for what im doing, but i say sentences to a person, and how they reply tells me a lot about the person. It can be questions from me, statements from me. Or anything realy. And how the person reply tells you a lot. You could say in away im jumping in the dark, but i always know when i jumped correctly. Its like pushing on diffrent kinds of emotions, and how they use those diffrent emotions to reply or avoid them. Tells a lot. You also got to pick out ONE word that stands out, that you notice have a importand meaning to the person(can be many words but like 1 word evry 10th sentence f.e.. Wich again tells a lot. Very diffycult to explain and understand. Not to mention evry other little things.

I haven't & don't want to really deal with the public. They scare me to the brink of death! I think in reality, I've got to actually face them where here on the net, I'm only facing my computer screen. That's the way I like it.

Yes thats 1 big + for the internett. you are safe and sound behind your computer. Dont have to worry about the person you talk too,(well maybe in a diffrent way). But its not like the person can punch you in the face if he/she gets mad etc. Its good you like it behind the computer, but a bit sad that u dont got any person in ur life you truly trust.

I am soooooo quick tempered! I think because the way that I've been treated in the past, (I used to be so placid) I found that people used to walk all over me, So now, I tend to snap back before they have finished! I had to learn the hard way. I never had any big sisters to stick up for me? I've got two older brothers, but they are 10yrs older. To big of an age gap for them to stick up for me. My bark is worst than my bite!

I used be quick tempered before too. But over the years i learned to forgive evryone. I dont hate anyone, almost impossible getting me mad as well. I do not know how directly, but i just dont have any hate or anger anymore. Wasent any unusal to w8 3-5hours daily for my mother when i was younger. You kinda get forced beeing patient and calm about it:). And she can never wait 10min for me. ai ai, life can be quite annoying.

17year old gap between me and my big brother:) and 14 for my older sis. So i know what you mean, they never stick up for me either. Although i always stood up for my younger sis, how annoying it was and still is in so many ways. Some of the people who caused me most harm i dont do anything els then protect and help. Dont even get a thx or apology for anything. Oh well. Funny, talking about beeing calm while im getting slightly frustrated.

Nothing that tv cant cure. xD

But seriously if you ever feel like talking or want any advice or something, just send me a pm(private message). Im all yours.

Again apologize for my odd english, Ive goten used to shortcuts sins ive been writing a lot online for years and usaly fast. So you becomes u. w8=wait,np=no problem, ofc=of course,thx=thanks and so on.

paula

10-02-2008, 05:23 AM

Hi Ronny

I mention that I am quick tempered and snappy! Well I am to a certain point. What I'm trying to say is: I'm like this over the net, but in reality, face to face, I shake tremendiously inside. My legs go to jelly & I get frightened! This is why I don't socialise. I always think people are trying to judge me, & then I get paranoid!

I think, like I mentioned previously, I think that everyone's trying to manipilate me all the time. Because of my past, when I was younger. I trusted everyone! Would do anything for anyone, give them my last penny if I knew it would help them? This went on for year's. Some people used to come up to me and try and make me see sense? With comments like, she only want's you because she's got no one else, when she's spent all your money she won't want you then? But I was to Nieve. As long as I was making them happy, it didn't bother me!

Everyone could see what was happening but myself. I had to see it myself, in my own time. To be honest, I think I knew deep down what was happening but, I kept thinking, hoping, that they would change? So basically, I was giving them the benefit of the doubt!

This went on for year's! Then when my time finally came, It was then that it hit me! Not one single person, friend's or family, came to the rescue! Do you know what I did? I broke down and cried. I just couldn't believe it? I know that I'd been previously warned what was going to happen but, I didn't want to accept it, wouldn't accept it! In my mind, I kept thinking, no, they wouldn't leave me if/when I need them. No, there not like that. But they did, and are.

That hurt me soooooooo much! I just couldn't believe it? It took me a very looooooong time to get over that. I never thought I could hurt soooo bad! It sent me a bit do-lally. I know that I'm do-lally now but, that, I would say, was the start of what I was to encounter for the rest of my life!

This is why now, I have alway's got my guard up! I will never ever trust anyone again & that's a promise. No matter how nice they're being to me, I will alway's be wise. Like the saying goes: once bitten, twice shy! I have alway's got my wit's about me, no matter what! I think that is why I am alway's on the defence side.

Whether I will learn to trust again, I don't know? For me to even think about trust, there's a lot that, thet person will have to prove! They will have to earn my trust! I know that they say that you should never judge a book by it's cover but at the moment, that is exactly what I'm doing and will do for a long time!

This is why, I've come to the conclusion, that life stinks! I cannot trust anyone! And I mean anyone! My son alway's tell's me that I've got a problem! He reckon's that no matter what, I will carry on for the rest of my life with this enormous chip on my shoulder. It will stay with me till I die? Maybe it will, and maybe it won't? But that is how life has treated me!

I think deep down that I am frightened to trust again. Frightened that it will happen again? I know that your probably thinking, that I will never know till I let my guard down, but I know at this present time, I can't let my gusrd down, don't want to let my guard down! I'd rather be on my own and have no-one apart from my son that is, than go through that again!

Sorry to bore you like I have? Maybe in your next post, you could give me a description of what you think I'm like?

Ronny

10-02-2008, 06:55 AM

No no, u dont bore me:). I completly understand why you dont let your guard down, and you shouldent either. When the people around you have betrayed you like they have, its nothing weird you dont trust people, you shouldent either. They have to gain your trust over time, if they dont have the patience to do so then they are nothing to collect or treasure. With the dangreous society we have today you should never trust people you dont know, or barly know. Belive in people, but dont trust them blindly. Luckly cause i read people easly i always know who i should trust and dont trust. Its like a inner voice that tells me a few words about the person and it has never! been wrong. I always lissen to this voice, thus i avoid beeing suprisly betrayed. I always know who to trust. Wich is a big +, however ther are always downsides too.

Yes its sad at times cause the lie is so much better to belive in then the reality, so you ignore the truth cause the truth is a lot worse.

I think i made an description in my second post to you somewhere, now if i could just find it lol.

paula

10-02-2008, 03:29 PM

Hi Ronny

Yes its sad at times cause the lie is so much better to belive in then the reality, so you ignore the truth cause the truth is a lot worse.

You ignore the truth because you know that the truth is going to hurt!

To be honest, I don't know what the truth is anymore? I've been told that many lies, it gets you believing them in the end.

LIFE IS ONE BIG LIE! Well that's what I think anyway?

Cynthia

10-07-2008, 05:28 PM

Hi Cynthia

I thought the maximum dose was 45mg on Mertazapine. Do you have to take 2x 30mg?

As of from today, I am off the Mertazapine anyway. Had to wean myself of them and now they have put me on Dosulepin 150mg a day.

Cheers for that anyway.

They had me initially on 30mg then upped it to 60mg. I never questioned the doctor but hope that was not above the recommended dosage? Anyway I am glad to be off of it and happy to hear they have changed your meds as well and hope they are working for you:D

ASchwartz

10-08-2008, 08:04 AM

Hi Everyone,

It is not a matter of "questioning" or doubting the doctor, but all patients have a right to and should "ask questions for clarification." Not only is all right to ask questions but it is always a good idea.

Allan

paula

10-08-2008, 03:11 PM

Hi Allan we've missed you where've you been?

It's not alway's as easy as that? what your saying is ask any questions that ur not sure of but if you are anything like me then all I want to do when I get in to see my G.P is get out again and by asking queations is only going to prolong my visit! Sorry Allan, no can do!

ASchwartz

10-10-2008, 09:50 AM

Hi Paula,

I am here but its sometimes difficult to get to all the forums and I sometimes can only get to a few. Also, I write for the site. I hope you and the others here have read some of my stuff (snoooooz):)

Yes, you are like me that way and that is why I bring my wife with me when I go to the doctor. In fact, I went today and was speaking to the nurse about just this thing. When you are the patient, its very hard to talk and to think of all you need to say. Partly, it's nervousness. No, largely, its nervousness.
Is there someone who can go with you and help you ask the questions and give the information?

What do the rest of you do? This is a widespread problem and it would help all of us if more of you could respond.

Allan

paula

10-10-2008, 11:16 AM

Hi Allan

I think you know what problem's I face when visiting my Doctor! I really wish that I could overcome these issues, but I can't? It starts to affect me the day before. Meaning: the feelings that I am trying to cope with, that is brought on with the thought's of visiting my doctor.

I know that I suffer with Insomnia, but when I know that I am due to see my doctor, I just cannot sleep whatsoever, the previous night to my visit.

My mind starts racing. There's all sorts of thoughts going through my head. Everything is all about, 'what if'...... Then I will repeat in my head, 'there's no such word as what if?'

You mention a family member being able to accompany me. I am not very close to my family. Not there doing, my own! I have my son living with me, but he attends College through the day, and I wouldn't expect him to sort out my problem's! It's not like having a daughter is it?

I have tried allsort's? Writing letter's and giving them to him, tried to relax, breathing. I couldn't even say that talking to him over the telephone would ease it imensly, because I get worst over the telephone!

I could do with having something that completely paralises your nerves, but doesn't affect your mentality? What I'm saying is, if they could give me something that totally relaxes the Anxiety and nervious side of things but didn't affect my thinking side of things? A bit like an Epidural! So my mind is still all intact! Am I making sense?

Do you know if there's any such method that they use? I am asking you because usually, if there's any new stuff that is realeased, then it's the American's that Have tried it first before it comes over to Britain? We usually get it when it's been out in America for a few year's or so.

If you could let me know one way or another?

Cheers!

paula

10-10-2008, 11:29 AM

Ooooops! Sorry Allan, forgot to mention that I understand that your busy. I think this one has backfired on me?

What I meant when I said where have you been, we're all missing you is: that we/I have missed you because it was w/end and you don't post of a w/end. I wasn't criticising you honest! May the lord drop his wooden clog's on me, if I'm telling you porkie's (lies). It was meant as a compliment!

Think this has backfired on me hasn't it? SORRY!

butterfly29

01-26-2009, 08:04 PM

hi Paula....I have been on a lot medications over the past 15 yrs. Medical and Psych. I have found that the medications can cause us to be more hungry so we eat. I once went from 125 to 178 in 5 weeks due to psych meds. Now when I go see "any" doctor and they want to put me on new meds my first question is "does it cause weight gain"? If it does I won't take it. I ask for something else. Usually they can find another med to do the same thing for you but not weight gain.

Good luck.....butterfly29

ASchwartz

01-27-2009, 05:49 AM

Hi Paula,

Well, there are medications that can take away your anxiety but, they are addictive. Medicines like Valium, one of the whole class of medications called Benzodiazapines, are really good at doing this. The trouble is they lead to addiction, and that means that they become less effective and you need to take more, then more, then more and then you cannot stop taking them.
There are a few less addictive and one non addictive medication but you need to ask your doctor. Remember, I am not a medical doctor, but, I would not want to take any Benzo for anxiety.

That is why things such as meditation, exercise, yoga, etc. are so good. We can learn how to reduce anxiety.

Also, I realize that talking to your doctor makes you nervous and you want a medicine that will allow you to talk to him without nervousness but you cannot because you get nervous. :D Its a circle with no end. Could someone in the family go to the Doc with you???????

Allan