4responsibility
11-01-2008, 11:58 PM
I am a man. I was both abusive and abused. For me,the idea of blame seems to still be alive and well in Domestic Violence Programs. I advocate everyone being responsible for their involvement, whether they are the abuser or the abused. For me the answer to ending DV will require all participants to choose to take full and complete responsibility for themselves, to look inside themselves and discover what it is in them that got them into an abusive situation. Personally, I own that I put myself in relationships where I hurt others and own that I was dangerous. On the other hand I accept full responsibility for being in relationships where others abused me. I believe that until someone wants stop being abused or abusive they won't and I can not be abused or abusive if it does not exist in me.